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Saima Ahmed's avatar

Great writing Holly. Thought provoking.

Self reflection is the word that comes to my mind right now.

Appreciated behavior or behavior that would be appreciated is a very accurate description of how many of us would think.

Yes maybe not everything is bad or for a wrong reason. But the idea I would connect here is that such a behavior should be good for the person himself first.

It should serve him or her first.

Only then it can be beneficial for others.

But this can be a long talk.

A talk we don't do often.

A talk about who we are first and how do we want to serve the people around us

Do we want to serve them for the sake of appreciation and image

Or do we want to serve them because that's what WE ( you and I) want to do ?

Is it a purpose or a shadow you are chasing?

Because purpose will fulfill you+ serve others around you.

A shadow may seem shiny right now but won't be forever, so what do you choose?

YOU or the image of YOU?

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Leonard Gaya's avatar

Terrific essay, and thanks for the mention, Holly! As a side note: I like how Romance languages use two different words for "power". In French: "pouvoir" and "puissance", in Spanish, "poder" and "potencia". Maybe this equates to "power" vs "potency" in English as well... The former means something like "power over", a form of influence that you (wish to) get, that you (wish to) acquire over others, or rather, that others may recognise in you and submit to--it's a fundamentally ego-driven and competitive ("stony") quality... The latter means "power to", or "being able to", one's own mastery, one's own talent or creativity--it's a giving quality. I guess the Beowulf poem shows how "puissance" may be conducive to "pouvoir", no?

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